Girl. That looks awful on you.

Don’t wear that girl. It looks awful on you. Take it off. Throw it away. Eww.

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Ever had a friend tell you that? You felt sad because you wear it all the time.  You felt like you just got punched in the face! Well....

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I’d like to punch you in the face. Right now. Yeah that’s right I’d like to be that friend who punches you in the face. Sometimes we need that friend. I need that friend too sometimes  

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Now you’re probably thinking “hold up”. This chick here is a boutique owner and wants to tell me I look awful and shouldn’t wear what I’m wearing. You’re thinking well guess I need to find a new place to shop because I don’t like her anymore.

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And I do want to tell you that what you’re wearing is ugly. It’s ugly on me too. I too should take it off and throw it away too.

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I feel ugly in it. I feel shame in it. I feel alone in it. I feel like I’m drowning in it. I feel like a different person in it.

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So are you over there going what on earth are you talking about? I’m talking about the things we carry and that we put on ourselves that no one sees yet they change us inwardly and outwardly.

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I’m talking about that sense that you’re not loved because maybe you’ve felt like no one has ever really cared. That sense that everyone will eventually leave because everyone else has. I’m talking about that feeling inside of you that you feel you have to go above and beyond for you to be accepted because even in a sea of people you’ve felt alone. Girl I’m here right now telling you to take it off.

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Take it off. Take off the pressure. Take off the feelings that you’re not enough. Take off the blinders to what’s keeping you from feeling loved. I know that feeling. I’m experiencing it right now. I feel you. I feel your pain. All you’ve ever felt is unloved. And no one would ever know you feel that way. And here is the hardest part you know you are loved yet you don’t feel loved and you feel guilty for that feeling.

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That last line right there cuts me like a dagger. Sliced so smoothly. It’s fresh. It’s raw. It’s real. But what it is the most is....it is unnecessary. We do not have to feel this way. We do not have to wear these things. How many of us need to undress?

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Take off the fear. Take off the pain and anger. Take off the sorrow over things you’ve never experienced yet time after time have watched others experience. That’s a hard one too. I know. I hate that one and yet sadly I’ve worn that one for so long. Too long.

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It’s gross. It smells bad. The worst part is it’s affecting me. It’s affecting me joy. It’s affecting my ability to be myself. It’s affecting the other things I love to wear like my inner peace. Like my joyful happy self. It’s like it’s pulling away the threads of those things so they can’t be worn any more. It’s time to take it off those unnecessary things. They need to be thrown away so that others can’t wear it either.

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It’s ugly. It’s gonna look ugly on every person who tries to wear it. It’s unfortunately been trending for a very long time. Maybe since we’ve seen it everywhere for so long we’ve mentally convinced ourselves we are keeping up with the trends by wearing it.

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News flash it’s ugly. Don’t wear it. Throw it away. Eww.

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You’ve got far better things to wear. Like your smile. Like your joy. Like your confidence. Like your worth.

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They may be far back in your closet. They may be hard to find. It’s gonna take some digging but it’s time for an outfit change. Get it girl. You look beautiful.

 

💗Always, Ashley